{"id":2101,"date":"2026-05-18T15:09:15","date_gmt":"2026-05-18T15:09:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/?p=2101"},"modified":"2026-05-18T15:09:15","modified_gmt":"2026-05-18T15:09:15","slug":"woman-41-having-baby-with-man-80-slams-critics-who-only-focus-on-age","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/?p=2101","title":{"rendered":"Woman, 41, having baby with man, 80, slams critics who &#8216;only focus on age&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"article-body\">\n<h2 class=\"LeadText_lead-text__wd_PA __className_e189fa\" data-testid=\"leadtext\">A woman is preparing to welcome a child with a man 40 years her senior has shed a light onto what their relationship looks like, and says that they are not impacted by others&#8217; judgement<\/h2>\n<p><button type=\"button\" class=\"SlideViewerButton_slide-viewer-button__BDJoG\" aria-label=\"Open image viewer\" aria-haspopup=\"dialog\" aria-controls=\"image-lightbox\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-embed__0T8WX ImageEmbed_image-lead__Ti3qQ\" data-testid=\"leadimage\" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-articleid=\"37172787\">\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-container__2AIQm\">\n<figure class=\"Figure_figure__Uce4f\" style=\"--figure-aspect-ratio:1.5\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Estie Goosen and her husband, Anton Goosen.\" loading=\"eager\" sizes=\"(max-width: 508px) 508px, (max-width: 615px) 615px, 1200px\" src=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172787.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200f\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172787.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s508\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 508w, https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172787.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s615\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 615w, https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172787.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200f\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 1200w\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"ImageCaption_caption__j7HRu\" data-testid=\"image-caption\">\n<p aria-label=\"Estie Goosen and her husband, Anton Goosen.\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-title__ccyQU\" data-testid=\"caption-title\">Estie Goosen and her husband, Anton Goosen.<cite aria-label=\"Image: Jam Press\/Er Lombard\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-credit__wlx1W\" data-testid=\"caption-credit\">(Image: Jam Press\/Er Lombard)<\/cite><\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/div>\n<p><\/button><\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">A woman going out with a man nearly 40 years older than her has shared an insight into their relationship as they prepare to welcome their first child.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">Estie Goosen and her husband, veteran singer Anton Goosen, have a 40-year age difference and have spent years battling<a aria-label=\" nasty comments and judgementLink opens in a new tab.\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dailystar.co.uk\/sport\/football\/jermaine-jenas-life-wife-girlfriend-37157616\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"_blank\"> nasty comments and judgement<\/a> about their age gap. Despite it all, the two are say they are still going strong and incredibly are ready to welcome their first child together this year.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">The 41-year-old says she doesn\u2019t understand why people make a big deal about<a aria-label=\" her husband\u2019s ageLink opens in a new tab.\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dailystar.co.uk\/news\/us-news\/couples-23-year-age-gap-36400896\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"_blank\"> her husband\u2019s age<\/a>, though it is something on their minds as they prepare for their new baby.<\/p>\n<div data-testid=\"image-group\"><button type=\"button\" class=\"SlideViewerButton_slide-viewer-button__BDJoG\" aria-label=\"Open image viewer\" aria-haspopup=\"dialog\" aria-controls=\"image-lightbox\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-embed__0T8WX false\" data-testid=\"imageembed-37172785\" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-articleid=\"37172785\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"image\">\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-container__2AIQm\">\n<figure class=\"Figure_figure__Uce4f\" style=\"--figure-aspect-ratio:1.5\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Estie Goosen and her husband, Anton Goosen.\" loading=\"lazy\" sizes=\"(max-width: 458px) 458px, (max-width: 615px) 615px, 1200px\" src=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172785.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172785.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s458b\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 458w, https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172785.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s615b\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 615w, https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172785.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 1200w\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"ImageCaption_caption__j7HRu\" data-testid=\"image-caption\">\n<p aria-label=\"The couple share a 40 year age gap \" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-title__ccyQU\" data-testid=\"caption-title\">The couple share a 40 year age gap <cite aria-label=\"Image: Jam Press\/Er Lombard\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-credit__wlx1W\" data-testid=\"caption-credit\">(Image: Jam Press\/Er Lombard)<\/cite><\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/div>\n<p><\/button><\/div>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">Estie, who is from Gansbaai, South Africa, said: \u201cNothing is a given, I have friends who died young in car accidents. Age and time are relative.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">\u201cThere\u2019ll be people around us who\u2019ll help him, care for him and love him.\u201d The couple met in London in 2008, when Anton was visiting to perform and Estie was working as a security guard at a clothing store during a gap year.<\/p>\n<div data-testid=\"image-group\"><button type=\"button\" class=\"SlideViewerButton_slide-viewer-button__BDJoG\" aria-label=\"Open image viewer\" aria-haspopup=\"dialog\" aria-controls=\"image-lightbox\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-embed__0T8WX false\" data-testid=\"imageembed-37172789\" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-articleid=\"37172789\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"image\">\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-container__2AIQm\">\n<figure class=\"Figure_figure__Uce4f\" style=\"--figure-aspect-ratio:1.5\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Estie Goosen and her husband, Anton Goosen.\" loading=\"lazy\" sizes=\"(max-width: 458px) 458px, (max-width: 615px) 615px, 1200px\" src=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172789.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172789.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s458b\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 458w, https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172789.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s615b\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 615w, https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172789.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 1200w\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"ImageCaption_caption__j7HRu\" data-testid=\"image-caption\">\n<p aria-label=\"The pair met in London\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-title__ccyQU\" data-testid=\"caption-title\">The pair met in London<cite aria-label=\"Image: Jam Press\/Er Lombard\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-credit__wlx1W\" data-testid=\"caption-credit\">(Image: Jam Press\/Er Lombard)<\/cite><\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/div>\n<p><\/button><\/div>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">The mum-to-be went to one of Anton\u2019s shows and they got chatting, discovering they both happened to have ties to Gansbaai, as he\u2019d moved to the town a year earlier.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">They stayed in touch via Facebook and when Estie returned to her hometown, they soon fell in love. When they married after a nine-year relationship, people quickly began to gossip about the singer\u2019s much younger third wife.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">Estie said: \u201cAs soon as I say the number, that\u2019s all people focus on. They won\u2019t see how we care for each other day by day and do good things.<\/p>\n<div data-testid=\"image-group\"><button type=\"button\" class=\"SlideViewerButton_slide-viewer-button__BDJoG\" aria-label=\"Open image viewer\" aria-haspopup=\"dialog\" aria-controls=\"image-lightbox\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-embed__0T8WX false\" data-testid=\"imageembed-37172784\" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-articleid=\"37172784\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"image\">\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-container__2AIQm\">\n<figure class=\"Figure_figure__Uce4f\" style=\"--figure-aspect-ratio:1.5\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Estie Goosen and her husband, Anton Goosen.\" loading=\"lazy\" sizes=\"(max-width: 458px) 458px, (max-width: 615px) 615px, 1200px\" src=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172784.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172784.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s458b\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 458w, https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172784.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s615b\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 615w, https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172784.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 1200w\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"ImageCaption_caption__j7HRu\" data-testid=\"image-caption\">\n<p aria-label=\"Anton is a famous singer\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-title__ccyQU\" data-testid=\"caption-title\">Anton is a famous singer<cite aria-label=\"Image: Jam Press\/Er Lombard\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-credit__wlx1W\" data-testid=\"caption-credit\">(Image: Jam Press\/Er Lombard)<\/cite><\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/div>\n<p><\/button><\/div>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">\u201cPeople always assume he\u2019s difficult or grumpy but he\u2019s neither of those things. He learns new things and engages all the time and he has an amazing vocabulary and general knowledge.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">Despite the judgement, the two are going strong &#8211; and are now expecting a son soon. For Anton, who already has two grown up daughters, it will be his first son, while this is Estie\u2019s first child.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">While she will soon have her hands full with the tot, Estie also cares for Anton somewhat \u2013 always having his eye drops on hand, as the medication and dark glasses are essential for his chronic dry eye condition. The two live in an almost 140-year-old fisherman\u2019s cottage, with a newly build upper floor that is due to house Anton\u2019s music studio, and views of the harbour.<\/p>\n<div data-testid=\"image-group\"><button type=\"button\" class=\"SlideViewerButton_slide-viewer-button__BDJoG\" aria-label=\"Open image viewer\" aria-haspopup=\"dialog\" aria-controls=\"image-lightbox\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-embed__0T8WX false\" data-testid=\"imageembed-37172790\" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-articleid=\"37172790\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"image\">\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-container__2AIQm\">\n<figure class=\"Figure_figure__Uce4f\" style=\"--figure-aspect-ratio:1.5\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Estie Goosen and her husband, Anton Goosen.\" loading=\"lazy\" sizes=\"(max-width: 458px) 458px, (max-width: 615px) 615px, 1200px\" src=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172790.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172790.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s458b\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 458w, https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172790.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s615b\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 615w, https:\/\/i2-prod.dailystar.co.uk\/article37172790.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg 1200w\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"ImageCaption_caption__j7HRu\" data-testid=\"image-caption\">\n<p aria-label=\"The pair say they don't listen to the haters\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-title__ccyQU\" data-testid=\"caption-title\">The pair say they don&#8217;t listen to the haters<cite aria-label=\"Image: Jam Press\/Er Lombard\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-credit__wlx1W\" data-testid=\"caption-credit\">(Image: Jam Press\/Er Lombard)<\/cite><\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/div>\n<p><\/button><\/div>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">The couple initially only shared their baby news with family and friends. But it quickly became impossible to hide her baby bump by the time Anton\u2019s 80th birthday party came round in March 2026.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">While their party guests were thrilled for them, people on social media were not nearly so kind. Estie says some of the comments caused her to have a \u201cmeltdown\u201d as they were so nasty.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">She said: &#8220;It&#8217;s awful, but fortunately we have unwavering support from all our friends and family &#8211; the people who love us and who know us.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\"><strong class=\"Strong_strong__e2x35\"><em><em>For the latest breaking news and stories from across the globe from the Daily Star, sign up for our<\/em> <a aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dailystar.co.uk\/newsletter-preference-centre\/\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"\"><em>newsletters<\/em> <\/a>.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A woman is preparing to welcome a child with a man 40 years her senior&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2102,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2101","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories"],"featured_image_urls":{"full":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg",1200,672,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby-300x168.jpg",300,168,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby-768x430.jpg",640,358,true],"large":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby-1024x573.jpg",640,358,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg",1200,672,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby.jpg",1200,672,false],"covernews-slider-full":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby-1115x672.jpg",1115,672,true],"covernews-slider-center":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby-800x500.jpg",800,500,true],"covernews-featured":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby-1024x573.jpg",1024,573,true],"covernews-medium":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby-540x340.jpg",540,340,true],"covernews-medium-square":["https:\/\/betreview.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/2_My-man-is-80-and-more-than-DOUBLE-my-age-but-were-having-a-baby-400x250.jpg",400,250,true]},"author_info":{"display_name":"admin","author_link":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/?author=1"},"category_info":"<a href=\"https:\/\/betreview.net\/?cat=7\" rel=\"category\">Stories<\/a>","tag_info":"Stories","comment_count":"0","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2101","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2101"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2101\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2102"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2101"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2101"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/betreview.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2101"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}